November 21, 2007
The Giver And Recipient Of Aromatherapy Massage
The Giver
Giving massage has its rewards too. As well as the enjoyment of knowing that we can help another person, we can lose ourselves in its rhythm and flow, and thus share in the recipient's experience of relaxation or elation. In other words, the giving of massage can be experienced as a form of active meditation.
To develop this concentration, you will need to attune to the needs of your partner. Although there are tangible signs of muscular tension which you can learn to recognize a good massage therapist also uses their intuitive faculties to sense which parts need soothing or revitalizing. In order to build up this sensitivity, try not to talk too much during the massage. It is a great pity that some people chatter compulsively because they are afraid or embarrassed by silence or even of being touched. Yet it is usually during the quiet moments that subtle healing energies come to the fore. With practice and a genuine desire to help another, most of us can develop our healing potential.
It is also important to wear loose, comfortable clothing. Remove jewellery and make sure your nails are cut short. Ask your partner to remove the necessary jewellery and clothes, but do respect their wishes if they feel happier wearing a pair of briefs, for instance.
The Recipient
To benefit fully from massage it is important to learn how to receive massage passively and with full awareness. If you constantly chatter and fidget, this is difficult to achieve. Instead, close your eyes, take a few deep breaths, then exhale with a sigh and relax into the experience. Concentrate your attention on your partner's touch and enjoy the sensation; allow your body to go heavy and limp. Allow your arms or your head, for instance, to be lifted and moved by your partner, rather than trying to help. Do speak up, of course, if something hurts, or if you feel cold or uncomfortable. Also, if your neck starts to feel stiff when you lie on your front, turn it to the opposite side.
